February Blog

GO GO GO !!! We are off to the true new year. You have done your clean-up everything is looking squeaky clean, you have faced your fears, and now it’s all about doing it and saying YES!!
I already love this month and know a few others are feeling the same energy. This month is about saying YES to what we usually say and saying a big yes to opportunities. What do you have to lose? WWWEEEEEEEEHHHHH… I am so excited!!

So as I mentioned, this month is all about saying yes to the uncomfortable, saying no to the comfortable, and all full steam ahead. The other day, I was at the grand opening of the new store where I will be stocking my tea, and I spoke to 3 lovely ladies. One lady asked why I chose to stock my tea at this new store, and I was like why not!! I decided one of my goals this year was going to be the year of saying yes. I am not going to ask the hows and how I will financially support my goals. But, if an opportunity comes to me, that goes with my values and I feel good energy, I am going to say yes and so far has not let me down. I asked the ladies the same question, and they all said the same. I loved it when one of the ladies said why not just like me, she said, It’s not like you’re stuck for the rest of your life. You can get out of anything if it doesn’t work, and nothing is forever. You have to try it out and see what happens, and what great advice that was.

So let’s take advantage of this energy while we have it, what have you been wanting to say yes to but haven’t because these thoughts run through your head, such as, I am too scared about the consequences? I am too fearful?  How would I fund it? What will people think? Oh, I’m not skilled enough? I can’t do that for someone like me. I am too shy? Furthermore, I don’t want anyone to see me. I am not attractive enough? I have too much anxiety about it. I’m too afraid to be uncomfortable. I am too afraid to change. But deep down you are burning and yearning to be able to move forward to be able to change, you know you have a grand purpose besides what you do every day. However, the only thing that is holding you back is your fear.

Fear can mean, in the dictionary, an unpleasant emotion caused by being aware of danger or a feeling of being afraid. Fear to me was very crippling, and I remember when I used to fear everything, such as the fear of speaking, the fear of expressing myself, the fear of even leaving my bedroom. I wanted the world to like me so much. I allowed others to dictate my life, and I didn’t exactly grow up in a safe environment, so fear was embedded in me. However, I got some awesome advice given to me from a stranger. You either go dig yourself a hole in the garden and stay there without moving, allow life to fly you by, and you are still in that hole. Or you can face your fears, love the fear, learn about the fear, and then laugh in its face and live your life as you fit. As the saying goes, face your fears and do it anyway, and that is what the energy is right now.

F-E-A-R has two meanings: ‘Forget Everything And Run’ or ‘Face Everything And Rise.

So go back to your goals list and what you want to achieve for this year, and start choosing what gives you the most fear. I want you to sit with the fear and run every scene you believe will happen. During this process don’t forget to give yourself space, self-love, and a safe environment. Then shake it off, by putting on your favourite song and dance it off. Once you have come back to your calm state, start your affirmation, by lighting a candle sitting in front of the mirror, and telling yourself all the ways you could be amazing at achieving your goals. Tell yourself how strong you are, how beautiful you are, that you can do it and nothing is stopping you on your way. And that you accept if it fails, as failure is only a lesson and helps to learn, to do or not don’t next time, and it makes you stronger. If I gave up on my dreams and trust me I wanted to every time I failed, however, I kept going, and now I am living my dreams and going through all my goals one step at a time. I’m not smart, I didn’t go to university. It was pure determination and lots of facing my fears. That is why I love helping others with their shadow healing, so you can break these patterns, and break these cycles of fear. You know where I am if you ever want to grow and break these cycles.

Now it is up to you to choose, to be comfortable and stay as you are, or to embrace what is in the uncomfortable and see your pathway open up, what else can be accomplished, and have fun with life.

“ He who has overcome his fears will truly be free “

Love, Carmela 🧙‍♂️👑